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												Fourth discourse 
											Once  again  we  have  come  to  attend  a  Sunday  service.    We  have  come  to  celebrate  the  Sunday,  to  ponder  Christ’s  resurrection  and  our  own  personal  resurrection.    This  remembrance  of  the  resurrection  should  also  become  our  way  of  life.    The  celebration  of  the  resurrection  is  a  triumph  over  the  sinful  world,  a  triumph  over  death,  a  celebration  of  life.    The  celebration  of  Sunday  is  the  basic  celebration  of  our  faith  and  our  life. 
											 
											 But  to  celebrate  does  not  mean  that  we  just  pray  at  the  service,  and  then  we  go  out  and  do  nothing.    Our  celebration  is  our  continuous  service  to  God  -  serving  Him  with  our  words,  our  lives,  even  our  very  breath.    And  the  celebration  is  not  composed  of  idleness,  of  doing   nothing,  but  on  the  contrary,  it  is  the  most  perfect  activity  -  the  work  of  our  spirit.    But  this  is  not  an  easy  task.    It  is  not  only  in  church  that  we  must  work  spiritually,  because  church  is  actually  the  end  result  of  our  work.    We  have  six  days  in  which  to  do  our  work,  and  the  seventh  day  (in  this  case  -  Sunday)  is  dedicated  to  our  Lord  God… 
											 
											 Some  people  attempt  the  following  division:   six  days  are  ours  -  they  say,  -  and  we  can  use  them  as  we  see  fit.    That  is,  we  can  use  them  for  our  own  affairs,  and  one  day  we  can  give  up  to  God.    But  that  is  not  right.    All  days  -  those  six  and  this  seventh  one  -  we  need  to  attain  a  resurrection  from  the  dead.    Such  a  resurrection  constitutes  the  meaning  of  our  life.    This  is  the  reason  for  which  we  live  and  work.    And  all  our  work  throughout  these  six  days  must  be  directed  towards  the  Sunday,  and  the  Sunday  must  be  the  crowning  touch  of  our  work. 
											 
											 Let  us  look  at  the  family:   what  are  we  doing  in  that  area  to  attain  our  resurrection  from  the  dead?    The  family  is  our  most  immediate  job  in  this  respect.    We  have  already  spoken  about  relations  between  husband  and  wife.    Let  us  talk  today  about  how  we  attain  our  resurrection  through  the  rearing  of  children. 
											 
											 Children  are  the  purpose  of  married  life.    In  the  Old Testament,  those  who  did  not  have  children  were  despised.    Children  are  God’s  blessing,  God’s  grace.    And  no  matter  how  many  are  sent  to  us  -  all  should  be  accepted.   The  wife  is  saved  through  childbearing.    A  woman  achieves  her  salvation  in  giving  birth  to  children  -  that  is  her  first  task  in  the  area  of  resurrection.    The  second  task  is  to  rear  the  children.    And  this  is  the  hardest  of  all.    But  what  good  comes  without  difficulty?    All  good  deeds  are  done  with  hardship.    The  Heavenly  Kingdom  is  acquired  by  force,  by  hard  work. 
											 
											 The  first  thing  to  do  for  the  sake  of  resurrection  is  to  baptize  the  child.    Such  a  baptism  should  not  be  done  mechanically,  but  should  rather  be  felt  as  a  resurrection.    The  sacrament  of  baptism  removes  the  disease  of  sin.    And  what  sin  can  a  child  have?    The  sin  which  hangs  over  all  of  mankind,  the  so-called  original  sin.    This  sin  must  be  removed.    But  to  remove  sin  means  to  become  resurrected. 
											 
											 The  godparents  must  be  believers,  and  not  simply  believers,  but  ardent  believers,  in  order  to  become  the  parents’  closest  helpers  in  rearing  their  children.    The  child  should  wear  a  cross  around  his  neck.    It  is  well  to  have  a  small  icon  hang  at  the  head  of  his  bed,  and  to  have  a  lampada  constantly  burning  before  the  icons  in  the  home.    Although  this  may  appear  to  be  an  external  matter,  it  is  nevertheless  important.    The  child  lives  through  his  first  impressions.    And  just  imagine:   he  is  wearing  a  cross,  a  small  icon  hangs  at  the  head  of  his  bed,  a  lampada  burns  before  the  icons.    What  a  wonderful  picture,  which  will  remain  in  the  child’s  memory  for  the  rest  of  his  life. 
											 
											 From  his  earliest  years,  as  soon  as  the  child  begins  to  utter  words,  he  should  be  taught  to  pray  to  God.    He  should  be  taught  the  Law  of  God,  we  should  read  to  him  from  the  Holy  Scriptures.    And  he  should  be  brought  to  church  as  often  as  possible,  to  take  communion.    This  is  the  internal  side  of  childrearing. 
											 
											 And  we  must  not  forget  that  there  should  be  love  and  agreement  between  the  parents.    Thus,  if  we  do  all  this,  we  will  bring  up  good  Christians.    Furthermore,  to  bring  up  good  Christians  means  not  only  to  resurrect  their  souls,  not  only  to  resurrect  our  own  souls,  but  to  resurrect  the  society  in  which  we  live. 
											 
											 At  this  point  I  can  foresee  that  I  may  be  accused  of  having  little  knowledge  of  life,  of  being  too  na?ve…   I  accept  such  accusations.    However,  at  the  same  time  I  pose  a  question:   but  what  else  can  we  do?    If  we  do  not  act  in  such  a  manner,  we  will  perish.    Both  we,  and  our  children,  and  the  surrounding  society.    We  look  upon  destruction  too  optimistically,  but  it  is  destruction  after  all.    Destruction!    Not  temporary,  but  eternal. 
											 
											 Let  us  imagine  life  as  it  really  is.    It  is  very  rare  nowadays  for  both  parents  to  be  believers.    And  baptizing  a  child  poses  a  great  problem.    There  are  even  much  worse  occasions.    Let  us  suppose  that  a  drunk  husband  comes  home  and  becomes  mad  that  there  are  icons  in  his  house.    Enraged,  he  moves  up  to  the  icon  corner,  grabs  an  icon  and  either  breaks  it  or  throws  it  out.    What  kind  of  childrearing  is  that?    The  child  sees  everything,  and  later  he  will  imitate  what  he  has  seen.    He,  too,  will  drink,  he  will  offend  the  feelings  of  others,  he  will  revenge  himself  upon  his  parents.    A  chip  off  the  old  block,  as  they  say… 
											 
											 What  can  we  do  about  it?    Just  throw  up  our  hands  and  let  all  go  to  perdition?    But  it  is  not  only  objects  that  become  destroyed,  not  only  cultural  monuments,  but  human  souls  are  destroyed. 
											 
											 When  misfortune  occurs,  a  fire  for  example,  kind  people  always  respond.    And  so  all  of  us,  now  standing  in  church,  should  respond  to  our  common  terrible  misfortune.    We  must  respond,  first  of  all,  with  prayer.    O  Lord,  You  see  what  is  happening  in  our  families,  You  see  our  children,  for  whom  nothing  is  holy,  who  do  not  know  what  a  terrible  abyss  they  are  approaching… 
											 
											 Some  people  may  say:   we  pray,  but  God  doesn’t  hear  us. 
											 
											 That  is  not  true!    God  hears,  but  how  do  we  pray?    Most  of  the  time  we  pray  without  faith.    It  is  said  about  those  who  believe:   everything  is  possible  for  believers,  and  if  something  is  impossible  for  us,  -  that  means  we  do  not  have  real  faith.    Faith  can  move  mountains,  nothing  is  impossible  for  those  who  believe.    Therefore,  in  order  to  be  able  to  respond  to  misfortune,  let  us  examine  ourselves,  how  we  pray,  how  we  believe… 
											 
											 But  in  order  to  pray  well,  in  order  to  believe,  we  must  lead  a  righteous  life.    Let  us  think  about  ourselves,  how  we  are  living,  what  a  multitude  of  sins  there  exists  among  us!    It  is  said  in  the  Gospel:   if  you  bring  your  gift  to  the  altar,  and  you  remember  that  your  brother  has  something  against  you,  leave  your  gift  and  first  go  and  make  peace  with  your  brother.     A  heart  which  contains  anger  and  enmity,  cannot  pray. 
											 
											 Moreover,  how  much  adultery,  lying, envy,  forgery,  calumny  there  is  among  us…   In  order  to  resurrect  the  souls  of  our  children,  we  must  first  resurrect  our  own  souls.    When  we  pray  in  church  with  souls  burdened  by  sin,  we  are  often  unable  to  understand  prayer,  unable  to  understand  the  service.    Our  prayer  consists  solely  of  ordering  a  panikhida  or  moleben,  for  example,  and  of  then  listening  for  the  names  we  had  submitted.    And  if  we  do  not  hear  those  names  mentioned,  we  immediately  think  that  there  has  been  no  prayer.    If  the  priest  tries  to  explain  to  us  that  our  prayer  should  consist  of  an  attempt  to  understand  the  words  of  the  service,  to  concentrate  upon  these  words,  he  is  told:   for  what  are  we  paying  money  then? 
											 
											 But  money  is  not  paid  for  prayer,  prayer  cannot  be  bought!    Money  in  this  case  is  like  good  deeds,  to  make  the  prayer  more  forceful,  but  we  must  never  think  that  we  can  buy  prayer  for  money. 
											 
											 And  how  can  we  understand  the  service?    Everyone  can  understand  the  service  as  long  as  he  has  a  strong  desire  for  it.    We  all  know  that  we  must  not  talk  during  a  service,  yet  we  do  so;   that  we  must  not  push  one  another,  yet  we  do  so.    There  are  moments  when  we  must  concentrate  so  absolutely,  that  even  our  breathing  should  not  be  heard.    These  are  the  “Cherubic  hymn”  and  the  “Eucharistic  canon.”    These  moments  represent  the  Lord  suffering  for  us,  the  Lord  being  crucified  for  us,  the  Lord  being  resurrected  and  resurrecting  our  souls  along  with  Him,  while  we,  thinking  of  other  things,  are  apt  to  walk  around  the  church,  push  our  neighbors,  ask  them  to  light  candles  for  us.    Yet  we  all  hear  the  words:   “now  lay  aside  all  earthly  cares…”    We  understand  these  words,  but  we  do  not  follow  them.    This  means  we  do  not  have  a  Christian  consciousness. 
											 
											 We  must  have  a  Christian  consciousness!  -  only  then  will  we  be  able  to  respond  to  all  misfortune.    Let  us  home  school  our  children  in  matters  of  religion,  let  us  gather  them  and  tell  them  all  about  God.    By  doing  thus,  we  will  resurrect  ourselves  and  others. 
											 
											
											
												 Father  Dimitriy  Dudko. 
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